How would you feel if ur husband chose work over you?

Work does not take precedence over marriage. If it does, the marriage fails. If you are facing surgery he should be there period. Resentment is setting in thus your lackluster attitude of the 2 hour ride. I know how I would feel. Hurt and then angry. Choices are on your horizon. Possibly tough ones. Can you talk to him lovingly and let him know how you feel? Good luck sweetie.